A few days ago, it was 13th April. Thirty years since I married Mike (13th April 1996), and nine years since we held his funeral (13th April 2017). Both momentous…
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Over the past few days, I have been at a retreat - my first one focused on fasting and meditation. There has been lots of downtime, and, no surprise to…
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Exactly two hundred years before my husband Mike died in 2017, John Keats was writing about a capacity I would start to need in buckets. He called it negative capability.…
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My grief retreats are alive, up and running! "There is no beginning that doesn’t require an ending, and no ending that doesn’t make possible a new beginning". Mondi Bridges, wife…
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Yesterday I left home at 7h00 for an 8h30 appointment with my gynaecologist of almost 27 years. It’s easy to work out how long he has been my gynaecologist because…
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A radical invitation to slow down, reflect, and compost what’s ending so something new can take root. For the fortunate among us, work is not “just a job”. It’s a…
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During 2024, I spent much of my time nourishing four deeply integrated projects—my website, my book, Mortal Leader, and grief services for organisations. All of them are still unfinished, some…
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Yeah, yeah, I know. Cheeky little blog title, isn’t it? We all stand on the shoulders of giants—sometimes giants who are 10+ years younger than we are. So yes, a…
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Life, Loss, Grief, Composting, Life, Loss, Grief, Composting, Life… This is the ongoing, cyclical spiral that encapsulates my understanding of transformation, both personally and professionally. In the wake of profound…
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At this time of year, I often come across beautifully crafted intention-setting exercises. They invite us to pause, reflect, and look forward. In the past, I’ve tended to focus on…
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Personal Blog - Widowing Empty Nests
How do you keep living when life shatters—again and again—in ways you never imagined? Breath by breath, moment by moment, you carry what remains. Widowing Empty Nests is a space where love, loss, grief, and resilience intertwine, offering honest reflections on the ongoing journey of holding the unbearable while embracing what endures.
