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Grief Maths 2.0
Grief Maths 2.0

Grief Maths 2.0

Earlier today, sometime during the afternoon, I happened to glance at my watch. It was precisely 15h05, the time at which Mike took his final breath. Today is 8th August 2026, and Mike died on another 8th of the month – 8th April 2017. Mike died at 15h05 on 8th…
8 August, 2026 Read More
What I Am Learning About My Dad
What I Am Learning About My Dad

What I Am Learning About My Dad

Main photo - 1948 - aged 10 Right up until his death, Dad was still in touch with four of his friends from his early Huddersfield days. Some of them had known him since they were six, seven and eight years old. I don't know all of these men well…
4 July, 2026 Read More
A Landscape Large Enough
A Landscape Large Enough

A Landscape Large Enough

This week I am at Kate Cowie’s Life Writing Retreat, held at the magnificent La Garriga de Castelladral, about an hour inland from Girona and Barcelona in Spain. It’s where I began my book, Still Fire Inside, exactly two years ago. The venue – and my bedroom’s terrace – look…
30 June, 2026 Read More
Broken-Hearted Train Journey in Reverse
Broken-Hearted Train Journey in Reverse

Broken-Hearted Train Journey in Reverse

Image by AI based on photos of dad and me Almost six months ago to the day – on 23rd December 2025 – my elderly parents spent a full day on French trains, travelling from where they live near at the foot of the Pyrénées Orientales to where I live…
25 June, 2026 Read More
Truths, Secrets and Re-Storying Dad’s Death
Truths, Secrets and Re-Storying Dad’s Death

Truths, Secrets and Re-Storying Dad’s Death

A few days ago, we received the post-mortem on my Dad’s death and it has sent questions and reverberations through me and others in my family. Some of the language is too medical for me to understand, even with ChatGPT support, and anyway, I prefer to talk it through with…
22 June, 2026 Read More