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- Category: Appearances
- Category: Organisational Blog
- Mortal Leadership in Action: Handing on the Baton
- Meeting Ancient Patterns with More Love
- When Growth Outpaces Maturity: Leadership, Shadow and the Work of Becoming Human
- Compost, Not Waste: Lessons from a Mortal Leader
- What if all of life was about gently dancing towards our death?
- Negative Capability: Leadership Skill for Times of Unravelling
- Falling in Love, Over and Over
- On Walking Through an Open Door
- Customised Grief Retreats for Personal Loss, Professional Endings and Life Transitions
- What If We Grieved the End of Work Like We Do the Death of a Loved One?
- Navigating Change Fatigue and Sustaining Human Leadership in Execution-Heavy Environments
- Tending Organisational Grief in Times of Disruption
- Grief-Wise Retreats: Coming Home to Ourselves Through Grief
- No Mud, No Lotus: Weaving Questions, Elements and Emerging Work
- From Death and Grief to Love and Life
- In the Dark, New Life Stirs
- Reinventing My Organisation
- My Working Models of Regeneration in Personal and Organisational Life
- Five Lists for 2025
- Light and Liminality, Love and Loss, Life and Leadership
- What Place Invites Living Fully NOW and Inspires Legacy?
- My Gentle Provocation for OD Consultants and Executive Coaches
- 2018. Where my life goes on, as do others’ lives. New lives come to be, and yet other lives end
- Razor Shells – Warning to Bathers: Take Care of Your Own Feet
- Firsts
- Overwhelm
- Leaning In
- Courage – Part Two
- Courage – Part One
- Running on Purpose
- Hope – Part Two
- Hope – Part One
- Category: Uncategorised
- Category: Widowing Empty Nests
- Grief Maths 2.0
- What I Am Learning About My Dad
- A Landscape Large Enough
- Broken-Hearted Train Journey in Reverse
- Truths, Secrets and Re-Storying Dad’s Death
- One Man’s Munros
- A Portrait of My Dad
- First Notes
- Unsatisfactory Answers
- 13th April: Both-And
- A Few Pieces of Writing by Julia Grace Kemp
- When nothing lands, nothing remains… then what?
- On The Shape of Grief After a Complex Loss
- Mothering Across Worlds
- A Facebook post that was silenced
- On Trying to Contain Stacked Grief
- Different Routes
- Sleepless Emotions
- Christmas Crisis
- Recognising Myself, If Not the Landscape of My Life
- A blast from the past with the smell of roasted coffee beans
- What if we didn’t shirk endings?
- Celebrating Black the Dog – again again again
- A Committed Yes!
- Held Between Two Yeses
- Becoming More Alder
- Bracing for Beauty
- Polyglow in the Polycrisis
- 3003 2004 0500
- Grief Without Heroes
- Life – and Death – go on, and on, and on
- Do I Now Throw Out the Bathwater?
- Surviving the Suicide of a Loved One: A Path Through Unthinkable Grief
- Traces of Me and You and Ju
- Breathing-In the New Year, Breathing, In The New Year
- Magical Musings
- A Decade of Decidedly Different Christmas Days
- The Spiral of the Eighth Day
- Grief: A Lifelong Journey
- Presencing Missing Children
- The Ongoing Ripples of Childhood Friendships
- Abnormally Normal, Normally Abnormal
- Medjool’s Conversation with Gaia
- And Julia?
- Call Me By My Loves
- Equinoxal Menopause
- Love and Light – though not in a corny way
- Living and Embracing Paradoxes & Polarities
- Loss, Separation, Despair
- Erm, he’s not my husband
- Compassion Without Borders / Dhembshuri Pa Kufi
- Interference
- Reasons Not To, & Reasons To
- It’s Not An Easy Story To Hear
- Tears in Montpellier Railway Station
- Moving home – and knowing it’s your last time
- Oh darling – where are you?
- My Non-Deep Time of Mothering
- More Than Human Losses
- Loved Top To Bottom and Head to Toe
- Thirteenth of April
- The Youth of Today
- Being Danced
- Birthday Girl Over Eons and Ages
- Number Noodlings and Doodlings
- Magical Deepening of Mystery and Awareness – aka MDMA
- For the Love of Dog – again (*).
- The Soothing of One’s Kids Being in a “Good Place”
- Wintering and Springing – or so I hope
- Regenerating Julia
- With Love From Edward?
- The Rich Wisdom of Dreams
- New Year’s Noodlings and Ramblings
- Michael – gentle, sweet, wise Michael
- It’s OK That You Are OK
- The Ubiquitous, Universal Language of Grief and Loss
- Precious, Peaceful Bubble of Not-Knowing
- Another Life. Ended. Another Life. Beginning.
- Gracious Gifts of Julia Grace
- Hallowe’en Musings
- Mike and Medjool Fusion Holiday
- A Non-Ordinary Friday
- So – I Didn’t See Any Swans
- My Biggest Little Trail Run
- Coming to the Here and Now – Right Now
- When answering with the same words is not an option…
- “Everyone has a story for how they end up here”
- Sixty. Unimaginably Sixty.
- A love letter to my parents
- Widows Walking in Wild Weather
- Endings, endings, endings everywhere
- Four Years – p l e a s e let him be right
- The Trickiness of “How Are You?”
- Time After Time After Time After Time
- Press “send” for instant panic
- Παρακαλώ και ευχαριστώ
- “The relationship I always wanted….”
- I wish I could better imagine…
- What do Mother’s Day, Handy Men, T-shirts and Jazz have in common?
- The School Bus That Thumps Me In The Gut
- Credits
- Just because I “know” doesn’t mean I “remember”
- Poster Child – but not for the reasons I would have wanted
- 8th April
- The Body Remembers – again
- NNTR and other attempts to influence language
- “Pas Voulu Mais Choisi”
- A Monstruous Web of Grief and Loss
- Love Is Not Always Enough
- Conversations Without Spaces Erase Entire Lives
- Let’s Talk About Death Over Dinner
- It’s Not About the Roses
- Choosing Life – A Love Letter to Julia from Paula
- What does hope look like for me now?
- Violent Dreams to Usher In the Year of the Rabbit
- In Praise of Love and Mountains
- Learning to Shuck Oysters at 55
- Channelling Christmas Spirits
- Slightly Lighter
- Two Additional Years
- Did I hear you say “…my surviving kids…”?
- Some emails jump out and punch me
- Being friends because your friend is dead
- “Relativiser”
- For once, the tears weren’t (only) mine
- Keeping Active Hope Alive for COP 27
- Old habits meshing with new ones – aka from Sergy to Scheveningen overland
- When not to mention the death of a child…
- Witnessing Deep, Rich Love, Sorrow and Pain in Others
- The Comfort – and Wisdom – of Denial
- Alone
- Rougher and Smoother Grief Grooves
- Honouring our Grief, Embracing our Mortality
- Take Me to Church
- Grief and Loss Witnessed from Further Out
- A Pyrenean Adventure Written in Thumb and Swype
- Counting Trees While Swimming
- Reasons To, Reasons Not To
- Greater Ease in Groups
- Residual Trauma
- WeWe – or Widows Encouraging Widows’ Exploits
- Delegating, Abdicating, Collaborating, Co-Creating?
- Talking to the Dog – Again
- Three Years of Pleasure and Pain
- What You Should Know – revisited
- “Worse Things Happen At Sea”
- Swimming Me Home
- Inspired by Rosemerry’s Daughter
- Comfortably Run
- I Still Can’t Much Do Groups
- Deeply, Genuinely Happy
- Humdrum and Bittersweet
- Birthdays and Earth Days
- Forever Young
- Five Years, Five Minutes, Five Decades
- Grief Analysis At The Cinema
- And now you are 18
- Homesickness
- The Miracle of Quality Listening
- Learning to Live Without a Map
- My New Favourite Grief Model(s)
- The Shape of Her in Her
- Sometimes…
- Creating the Community I Crave
- Throwing out decades of memories
- Choosing Love
- If Only…
- 2022 Is The Year Of….Lovely Work
- “Go Get Yourself A Bigger Problem”
- One of the Best Things
- Today I have lived 20,000 days
- Black, the Christmas Dog
- Flowering Unapologetically
- In Conversation with Madiba
- Beautiful, Beautiful, Beautiful Widows
- Grief of Tsunamic Proportions
- You’re Allowed Fifteen Minutes
- Mourning and Evening Glories
- A Run of Good Luck?
- From Pandemic to Endemic
- I Can Do Heavy
- Gold Dust Moments
- Lots of Tears this Week
- Courage, Trust and Hope
- Community and Accountability
- The willingness to be changed by another
- 9/11 Memories, Appreciation and Honouring
- ABBA Revival
- This Life. THIS One
- Just how do we ever do this?
- I am beginning to see what you’ve lost
- Three-Way Pact
- Yet Another Secondary Loss
- Noticing and Shifting Patterns of Living with Loss(es)
- Sunrise over Chamonix after running through the night
- Commemobrating
- When “ex” means alive
- And life, with all its devastation, trundles on
- Navigating Multiple Worlds
- Discharging Guilt
- Disappointed in the Spirit World
- Navigating New Terrain
- The Smallest Of Gestures
- On Life as Mayonnaise
- Non-Stop Dead
- Re-Re, Re-Be
- Sweet Grief
- Alchemising Impermanence
- Double Trouble
- Some Softer Dates
- Ma partenaire est veuve : quels impacts sur notre relation ?
- My partner is widowed: so what does that mean for our relationship?
- Uncharted Territory
- Breaking Bad
- Crumpling Face Like No Other
- Lessons in Love – Part One
- Why her? Why him? Why now?
- Hard Beliefs to Swallow
- Sabre-Toothed Tigers on French Country Roads
- Hello Wall
- Terry, I wish I’d loved you while you were still alive
- A Wave of Fresh Green Grief Amidst the Snowy Whiteness
- Exercising Optimism in Griefland
- Yes, I know David Bowie died five years ago
- Wise and Kind Babes
- Shattered Christmases
- Missing and MISSING
- My First Podcast – On Living With Loss (What Else?)
- Today, I have lived 19,615 days
- Saturated Night Terrors
- Violon d’Ingres
- Categories
- I nearly said “Micky”
- What I Wouldn’t Give…
- On Love and Risk
- Resilience Is…
- Facing Death, Embracing Life
- My Life is Not Your Excavation Site
- 42 Moons
- I want MIKE!
- Long Live Live Music
- From “What’s Wrong?” to “What’s Possible?”
- Sliced and Diced and Cored
- Life, After
- Dying to Live or Living to Die?
- Love Threading Through My Week
- A Week’s Ramblings
- A Letter of Encouragement to my Widbuds
- Nice enough. Just not “right”
- Let Me See Where Mike Is At
- Grief Maths
- Wrapping Loss in Love
- Post Mortem – a year on
- Right Down to the Weather
- Commemorating Julia. Seriously? WTF?!?
- Incongruities of a Summer’s Day
- Rewriting Friendship Contracts
- Parallels
- Don’t Rush Me
- Empty
- New Love in the Time of COVID-19
- Multiple Versions of Mother’s Day
- Threadbare
- Bittersweet
- Same and Different – with a difference
- Messages From Mike
- Till Death Do Us Part
- Taxing Memories
- Hard-Won Resilience
- The Wrong Kind of Dates
- Don’t Get Me Wrong, But…
- Incompletely Complete
- The Courage Required to Look Grief in the Face
- Expertise I Didn’t Want
- The Weirdness of February
- Picking at Grief Scabs
- Tread Lightly on my Memories
- Validation Matters: Five Not Three
- One Death or Four?
- Russian Mountains
- Life After Death Through Three Lenses of Change
- A Good Week?
- Sticky Issues
- Too Many Deaths. Really. That’s Enough.
- 997, 998, 999, 1000, 1001, 1002, 1003, et seq ad infinitum et ad nauseam
- Mixed Emotions
- Pizza Toppings
- Bah Humbug!
- Self-Care, Help and Comfort
- It’s About Time
- Mourning Glories
- I love you like I love Mike
- For the Love of Dog
- Maudlin
- It’s Just a Piece of Metal
- Running on Purpose_v2
- Ricochet
- The Shape of You in Me
- Baby Blue Shoes
- Write & Wrong
- The Grief See-Saw Roundabout
- How Would You Love Me In This, Julia?
- And Then What Happened?
- Baby Doll
- More Remembering and Forgetting
- Remembering – and Forgetting – Dates
- Musical Moments
- What I Wish for You
- Moments of Marginally More Looseness
- My Bashed Up Heart
- Reflecting on the Experience of Writing
- Letter to Julia
- The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly
- Breathe in the Wreckage
- Healing Balm
- Weariness
- Language and Colour Could Never Begin to Describe You
- My Grief Mentor
- Found Poetry in The Psychologist
- Extreme Self-Care
- Grief gets to speak her truth
- I don’t know what to do with my hands
- My Forest has Changed
- What You May Not Know
- The Girl with No Name
- In The Past 24 Hours….
- Projection
- La Rentrée
- Clutching onto Solo-Parenting
- So What if the Plane Goes Down?
- Shattered and Fragile, Though Not Completely Destroyed
- Just Another Screwy Sunday
- Healing Hurts
- Finding my (New) Community that I didn’t know Existed
- Impossible Questions, Unthinkable Answers
- Absurdities_2
- Wandering and Wondering
- Absurdities_1
- So how do I, Emma, now carry on?
- Fearful, Fear-full, Full of Fear
- An Exploration of Being Nice and Kind
- Fête de Granny May
- A tiny, yet perceptible, shift
- On Being French for 24 Hours
- Yet Another Trigger Date and How I Have been Kind to Myself
- Your Last Day
- A Tsunami of Dates
- Nothing is Wasted – or – It’s Not About the Car
- March has been a Good Month for Healing Friendships
- Infinitely Finite
- Valentine’s Day
- Head for the Rhomboid Molar in the Orange Gum
- At least! At least!! At least!!!
- Maybe Mike Was Right All Along
- Ten Things I Know To Be True
- Good Grief! Love Hurts
- Grief is not contagious… and yet….
- Eclipsed (again) by the Shock and the Horror
- Airports are Emotional Places
- Despite all my efforting, he’s still dead
- Silent Celebrations
- Widow Walking in Wild Weather
- I Don’t Recognise My Life
- A big week made bigger
- Emma of 500 Days – And other stories of numbers and dates
- A Holiday Chock Full of Gifts
- You’re So Strong!
- What is it About Triggers?
- Making Memories
- The End of an Era
- The Body Remembers
- Who am I and Why am I here?
- Four Funerals and Two Weddings
- 2018. Where my life goes on, as do others’ lives. New lives come to be, and yet other lives end
- Razor Shells – Warning to Bathers: Take Care of Your Own Feet
- Firsts
- Grief Part Three: How do I integrate Grief anyway?
- Grief Part Two: Widowing is Lonely Work
- Overwhelm
- Grief Part One: I Don’t Much Like This Widowing Thing
